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TIGER WOODS IS TRUE TO HIS OWN NATURE

Saturday, February 20th, 2010

It’s laughable that some critics of Tiger Woods’s apology dis him for the tightly controlled press conference, for his brazen opinion of the media, and for refusing to give details about people, events, and conversations.

Tiger is actually tightly true to his core values and beliefs.

Now there’s some controversy about whether Tiger is a Rational (Green) personality type or an Artisan (Orange). Either way, Tiger possesses the characteristics that both personality types have in common.

DOING WHAT WORKS. Both Rationals and Artisans meet their goals with knowledge, tools, and skills that they know simply work - devoid of excessive language and emotion. For the apology, Tiger ripped away all excessive conjecture and unproductive emotional displays and delivered sorrow, a program to make amends, clear positions, and the desire to return to his career.

BEING IN CONTROL. Both Rationals and Artisans naturally take charge of their own projects - whether those projects are a job, a family vacation, a sport, their own rehabilitation program, or the own press conference about the rehabilitation program.  Even if Tiger had taken questions from the media, odds are that he would want to see the questions in advance. Neither Rationals nor Artisans want to be caught making mistakes or - worse - get themselves in a pickle for messing up an answer for lack of preparation. Rationals are perfectionists in the use of words, are proud of the knowledge and research behind the work they air publicly, and they loathe looking stupid under any circumstances. Artisans are perfectionists as onstage performers and - although they are better able to recover from mistakes than Rational folks - will want to have been able to be “at the top of their game” with the rehearsals and control necessary to win that game.

WANTING TO WIN. Of all the Types, Rationals and Artisans can be fiercely competitive. Tiger clearly possesses the values and strengths of both Rational and Artisan, doing what is necessary to win - in the smartest and most persistent ways. If you analyze the apology speech, you will see the biggest battles he determined to focus on and win involve the most important people to him, and he addressed them directly - his wife and children, the PGA, his sponsors, his foundation, and his fans who want their role model back.

RAW HONESTY.  Both Rationals and Artisans are often called “rude”, “manipulative”, and “cold” by the other Types because they are naturally unafraid to tell truths. It’s easy to forget that the real strengths behind the negative judgments are, respectively, “courageous”, “utilitarian”, and “honest”. It would be hard to find a politician or sports star who would admit that they had “felt entitled to the pleasures” as Tiger said without additional excuses. How many people have you seen nail the media for its shoddy gossipy nature without sounding like a mere whiner? Not many, for sure.

I could go on. The emotion that Tiger did show in the interview was probably outside the box for him. The entire period that began on Thanksgiving has been an enormous embarrassment to a person who aspires to do absolutely everything well - either through his mind or his body.

In anticipation of counter arguments some of you may have, let me try to answer a few of them. Is everything that Tiger does “to make things work” based on sound moral principles? Probably not always, like most of us. Is Tiger’s need for control going to hurt him once in awhile - and annoy even his best friends? Probably. Will Tiger’s “need to win” hurt a few people because they are getting in the way? You betcha. Is Tiger capable of lying? Well, he certainly has.  However, unless there is some character flaw nobody has picked up on yet, I am as certain as they sun rises every morning that Tiger will in the end win his family back, will win lots of golf tournaments and break most of the records of all golf history, and will win back his reputation as a role model for many generations to come. Tiger Woods - if nothing else - has the mind, body, and full nature of an epochal Rational-Artisan winner. Go Tiger.

 

TIGER WOODS IS TRUE TO HIS OWN NATURE

It’s laughable that some critics of Tiger Woods’s apology dis him for the tightly controlled press conference, for his brazen opinion of the media, and for refusing to give details about people, events, and conversations.

Tiger is actually tightly true to his core values and beliefs.

Now there’s some controversy about whether Tiger is a Rational personality type or an Artisan. Either way, Tiger possesses the characteristics that both personality types have in common.

DOING WHAT WORKS. Both Rationals and Artisans meet their goals with knowledge, tools, and skills that they know simply work - devoid of excessive language and emotion. For the apology, Tiger ripped away all excessive conjecture and unproductive emotional displays and delivered sorrow, a program to make amends, clear positions, and the desire to return to his career.

BEING IN CONTROL. Both Rationals and Artisans naturally take charge of their own projects - whether those projects are a job, a family vacation, a sport, their own rehabilitation program, or the own press conference about the rehabilitation program.  Even if Tiger had taken questions from the media, odds are that he would want to see the questions in advance. Neither Rationals nor Artisans want to be caught making mistakes or - worse - get themselves in a pickle for messing up an answer for lack of preparation. Rationals are perfectionists in the use of words, are proud of the knowledge and research behind the work they air publicly, and they loathe looking stupid under any circumstances. Artisans are perfectionists as onstage performers and - although they are better able to recover from mistakes than Rational folks - will want to have been able to be “at the top of their game” with the rehearsals and control necessary to win that game.

WANTING TO WIN. Of all the Types, Rationals and Artisans can be fiercely competitive. Tiger clearly possesses the values and strengths of both Rational and Artisan, doing what is necessary to win - in the smartest and most persistent ways. If you analyze the apology speech, you will see the biggest battles he determined to focus on and win involve the most important people to him, and he addressed them directly - his wife and children, the PGA, his sponsors, his foundation, and his fans who want their role model back.

RAW HONESTY.  Both Rationals and Artisans are often called “rude”, “manipulative”, and “cold” by the other Types because they are naturally unafraid to tell truths. It’s easy to forget that the real strengths behind the negative judgments are, respectively, “courageous”, “utilitarian”, and “honest”. It would be hard to find a politician or sports star who would admit that they had “felt entitled to the pleasures” as Tiger said without additional excuses. How many people have you seen nail the media for its shoddy gossipy nature without sounding like a mere whiner? Not many, for sure.

I could go on. The emotion that Tiger did show in the interview was probably outside the box for him. The entire period that began on Thanksgiving has been an enormous embarrassment to a person who aspires to do absolutely everything well - either through his mind or his body.

In anticipation of counter arguments some of you may have, let me try to answer a few of them. Is everything that Tiger does “to make things work” based on sound moral principles? Probably not always, like most of us. Is Tiger’s need for control going to hurt him once in awhile - and annoy even his best friends? Probably. Will Tiger’s “need to win” hurt a few people because they are getting in the way? You betcha. Is Tiger capable of lying? Well, he certainly has.  However, unless there is some character flaw nobody has picked up on yet, I am as certain as they sun rises every morning that Tiger will in the end win his family back, will win lots of golf tournaments and break most of the records of all golf history, and will win back his reputation as a role model for many generations to come. Tiger Woods - if nothing else - has the mind, body, and full nature of an epochal Rational-Artisan winner. Go Tiger.

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Is There Hope for Tiger Woods’ Marriage?

Wednesday, December 16th, 2009

Tiger Woods could end up being a champion family man, if he acts as smartly now as he does on the golf course.

 

A lot of people celebrating 50th wedding anniversaries have survived a few affairs.

 

Looking back over my life, I have to wonder if nature is the natural enemy of wedding vows. After all, we are all biologically programmed to have sex with just about anybody at any time – as programmed as we are to have to eat when we are hungry.

 

And we are also emotionally programmed to feel resentment and jealousy when our partner strays – even when a relationship is new and a long way from marriage commitments.

 

We are intellectually programmed to try to resolve conflicts, yet this programming appears to be weaker than the other two – and will lose out to amphibian lust and violence.

 

That’s why I think we need to go for help when our previous relationships and our families are threatened by sex outside the marriage. I think couples need help to the same degree that alcoholics need AA.

 

It doesn’t help when one partner insists outside sex is “no threat” to the primary relationship. And it also doesn’t help when the wounded partner hides behind the legality of the marriage vows – as if the sinner stole money from bank with a gun.

 

In a nutshell, if both parties find that the core relationship is worthwhile and worth saving, then a process of rebuilding is in order. Think about it. Nations murder millions of people in neighboring nations but, only a few years after such nightmarish encounters, end up as the best of allies. Teenage children inflict unpardonable havoc on themselves and their families, yet parents protect and help them out of love and commitment.

 

You will note that I have not used the word forgiveness even once. That’s because two people will rarely give the same definition of the word, depending on circumstances. What I am advocating, however, is the use of our natural intellects to resolve conflict, to get the help of experienced smart people, and to build great families that can withstand all of the storms that life will bring them.

 

Tiger Woods is no amphibian. His wife and children are not little lizards. I’m hoping for the best for all of them.

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Diablo Cody

Thursday, November 5th, 2009

Boy, is there ever a book for you to read. Pay attention, Orange people – something for YOU. Just finished reading Diablo Cody’s book Candy Girl: A Year in the Life of an Unlikely Stripper.  You may already know her as the Oscar-winning screenwriter of Juno.

She’s the ultimate extraverted Orange-Green personality. She’s got a top-notch foreign journalist’s Orange daring, backed up by the laser-perfect vocabulary skills of the Green.

 

As Jane Fonda is the poster child of an introverted Blue-Gold, so Cody is the extraverted Orange-Green. (Just imagine these two playing each other in biopics.) You have all got to enjoy this book. Fifty years ago, it would have surprised if not completely horrified most people. Heck, some people today will be surprised. The beauty of this biography is the stark non-judgmental journalism about her own life, the people she cares about, the sex industry – both the vendors and the customers – and drugs and alcohol. Such freedom. Such magnificent freedom. God bless the true Oranges who are true to themselves. The Greens among you will love her lexicon – and the complete utilitarian nature of her adventures. Blues may totally identify with husband Jonny, and get off on the author’s imagery. Golds– gawd, I wish there were more of you on this site – I’d pay money to hear what you think. And Oranges – well, just pump up your chests in pride.

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As Eunice Shriver leaves us, reflect on Sargent Shriver

Thursday, August 13th, 2009

With the passing of Eunice Shriver, I’d like to comment on her Blue husband Sargent. He is still alive, by the way, but deep into Altzheimers.

 

Sargent Shriver is a super role-model for extraverted Blue-Orange folks. He did what most Blue people would find extremely difficult to emulate – be successful a la Donald Trump in the financial world. He singlehandedly doubled the financial empire of Joe Kennedy in Chicago then, amidst the Green and Orange uber-aura of the Kennedy family and administration, he jumped in to be the Green and Gold expert behind major choices in the Kennedy cabinet. The founding of the Peace Corps was entirely his doing – from the initial idea to painstakingly and patiently walking the corridors of Congress to get the bill passed.

 

One thing I have learned about all this temperament stuff is that one’s “core temperament” need not impede us from greatness – especially when we are willing to be Renaissance People with all of the learning, experience, courage, and discipline that that requires.

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Sonia Sotomayor is Gold-Green?

Friday, July 17th, 2009

Watching Sonia Sotomayor this week — even through the curtain of a traditional Senate hearing — I believe we were witnessing a Gold-Green at the peak of healthy Goldness. The first clue seemed to be the verbal slow pace, extreme comfort with processing and re-processing all ideas regardless of their importance or inanity. She seemed to be firmly in control of the room, the camera, and even the outcome by being very well prepared and practiced. Being called a bully in the workplace might be translated more kindly as being a real boss — demanding respect, completed work, total focus, i.e., she has little or no tolerance for lack of discipline and probably does not welcome lightheartedness unless it is well deserved or she engages in it herself. I had wondered if she might be Green early on, but her long legal track record does not appear to reflect a Green’s ongoing inventiveness or desire to make differences.

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Michael Jackson Was a Healer

Thursday, July 2nd, 2009

World Idol Michael Jackson was probably Introverted Blue-Orange in temperament. [For a brief description of Four Windows Personality Colors, go to www.JackDermody.com/4w.html.] If you are into Myers-Briggs or Keirsey, that’s INFP, the Healer.

An Introverted Blue-Orange Healer is the personality type of a very small minority who inevitably come off as artistic, gentle, inscrutable and – let’s face it – weird. Naturally introverted, they rarely cross most people’s paths, so to find our Introverted Blue-Orange Michael Jackson in a position of power and fame is a bit of a shock. Princess Diana was such an “artistic, gentle, inscrutable and weird” Healer cast tragically among royal purveyors of rules and rigid normality – an entire family completely and immovably opposite in personality – overall Gold-Green.

Unlike Diana, however, Michael Jackson found more room to be himself in the welcoming playground of music and dance where a Healer’s attributes are appreciated.

The world of feeling was Jackson’s logic. When he said something from the heart, you could believe it. And his heart was always on his sleeve. The altruistic care for children was probably very, very real, especially in light of his own unhappy childhood. The Introverted Blue-Orange Healer child is most offended by harsh language, harsh punishments, unreasonable conflict, overly scheduled discipline, and unnecessarily rule-based lifestyles. His adult reaction to the harshness was to create Neverland as a modern-day Peter Pan and channeler of Walt Disney.

The Blue-Orange person primarily feels and intuits, then allows natural creative and artistic talents to synergize with natural empathy to constantly remake himself and let new forms of art express themselves. With the mind and energy of Michael Jackson, the creations were enormous and astonishing.

Introverted Blue-Orange people are marginalized in normal society – where the majority of “normal” people do not welcome frequent changes of mind and limitless public emotion. Critical words used for our Healers include “over the top,” “emotional,” “unpredictable,” “strange,” “undependable,” “scary,” “not serious,” and, yes, “weird.” In the mind of the Healer, however, the strengths beneath the harsh criticism – and in the same order – are “creative,” “loving and caring,” “flexible,” “artistic,” “never rigid,” “righteously questioning,” “dead serious about changing the world,” and “self-confident.”

It needs to be said, on the other hand, that Introverted Blue-Orange folks may be charming, exceptionally good-looking, highly approachable, and universally loved, yet they rarely feel that way. Feelings of inadequacy and separateness haunt them through life. Gobs of adoration and success make a shallow dent in this self-image – whether that image is innate or beat into them by insensitive child-raisers.

Healers love passionately and profoundly. They ardently desire to heal themselves, heal their very close loved ones and – indeed – heal the entire world. Introverted Blue-Orange folks – always optimistic and positive – seek harmonious relationships at all levels. You have to release your cynicism and let yourself believe that Healers truly seek peace and harmony for everyone on the planet. They are super idealists who honestly believe that internal and external conflicts can be resolved.

It’s not easy being a Healer. They have trouble saying “no” to most requests. Bullies have a field day with their sensitivity. Sexual orientation is often questioned, especially if you are a male. Introverted Blue-Orange language does not usually compute well in the business world of Gold-Green types because out-of-the-box, artistic, passionate, and emotional opinions seem inappropriate against pie charts, strategic planning, logistical analyses, and tactical maneuvering of the business world.

Michael Jackson overcame a great deal to bring his unfettered passion to the world intact

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