Archive for February, 2010

TIGER WOODS IS TRUE TO HIS OWN NATURE

Saturday, February 20th, 2010

It’s laughable that some critics of Tiger Woods’s apology dis him for the tightly controlled press conference, for his brazen opinion of the media, and for refusing to give details about people, events, and conversations.

Tiger is actually tightly true to his core values and beliefs.

Now there’s some controversy about whether Tiger is a Rational (Green) personality type or an Artisan (Orange). Either way, Tiger possesses the characteristics that both personality types have in common.

DOING WHAT WORKS. Both Rationals and Artisans meet their goals with knowledge, tools, and skills that they know simply work – devoid of excessive language and emotion. For the apology, Tiger ripped away all excessive conjecture and unproductive emotional displays and delivered sorrow, a program to make amends, clear positions, and the desire to return to his career.

BEING IN CONTROL. Both Rationals and Artisans naturally take charge of their own projects – whether those projects are a job, a family vacation, a sport, their own rehabilitation program, or the own press conference about the rehabilitation program.  Even if Tiger had taken questions from the media, odds are that he would want to see the questions in advance. Neither Rationals nor Artisans want to be caught making mistakes or – worse – get themselves in a pickle for messing up an answer for lack of preparation. Rationals are perfectionists in the use of words, are proud of the knowledge and research behind the work they air publicly, and they loathe looking stupid under any circumstances. Artisans are perfectionists as onstage performers and – although they are better able to recover from mistakes than Rational folks – will want to have been able to be “at the top of their game” with the rehearsals and control necessary to win that game.

WANTING TO WIN. Of all the Types, Rationals and Artisans can be fiercely competitive. Tiger clearly possesses the values and strengths of both Rational and Artisan, doing what is necessary to win – in the smartest and most persistent ways. If you analyze the apology speech, you will see the biggest battles he determined to focus on and win involve the most important people to him, and he addressed them directly – his wife and children, the PGA, his sponsors, his foundation, and his fans who want their role model back.

RAW HONESTY.  Both Rationals and Artisans are often called “rude”, “manipulative”, and “cold” by the other Types because they are naturally unafraid to tell truths. It’s easy to forget that the real strengths behind the negative judgments are, respectively, “courageous”, “utilitarian”, and “honest”. It would be hard to find a politician or sports star who would admit that they had “felt entitled to the pleasures” as Tiger said without additional excuses. How many people have you seen nail the media for its shoddy gossipy nature without sounding like a mere whiner? Not many, for sure.

I could go on. The emotion that Tiger did show in the interview was probably outside the box for him. The entire period that began on Thanksgiving has been an enormous embarrassment to a person who aspires to do absolutely everything well – either through his mind or his body.

In anticipation of counter arguments some of you may have, let me try to answer a few of them. Is everything that Tiger does “to make things work” based on sound moral principles? Probably not always, like most of us. Is Tiger’s need for control going to hurt him once in awhile – and annoy even his best friends? Probably. Will Tiger’s “need to win” hurt a few people because they are getting in the way? You betcha. Is Tiger capable of lying? Well, he certainly has.  However, unless there is some character flaw nobody has picked up on yet, I am as certain as they sun rises every morning that Tiger will in the end win his family back, will win lots of golf tournaments and break most of the records of all golf history, and will win back his reputation as a role model for many generations to come. Tiger Woods – if nothing else – has the mind, body, and full nature of an epochal Rational-Artisan winner. Go Tiger.

 

TIGER WOODS IS TRUE TO HIS OWN NATURE

It’s laughable that some critics of Tiger Woods’s apology dis him for the tightly controlled press conference, for his brazen opinion of the media, and for refusing to give details about people, events, and conversations.

Tiger is actually tightly true to his core values and beliefs.

Now there’s some controversy about whether Tiger is a Rational personality type or an Artisan. Either way, Tiger possesses the characteristics that both personality types have in common.

DOING WHAT WORKS. Both Rationals and Artisans meet their goals with knowledge, tools, and skills that they know simply work – devoid of excessive language and emotion. For the apology, Tiger ripped away all excessive conjecture and unproductive emotional displays and delivered sorrow, a program to make amends, clear positions, and the desire to return to his career.

BEING IN CONTROL. Both Rationals and Artisans naturally take charge of their own projects – whether those projects are a job, a family vacation, a sport, their own rehabilitation program, or the own press conference about the rehabilitation program.  Even if Tiger had taken questions from the media, odds are that he would want to see the questions in advance. Neither Rationals nor Artisans want to be caught making mistakes or – worse – get themselves in a pickle for messing up an answer for lack of preparation. Rationals are perfectionists in the use of words, are proud of the knowledge and research behind the work they air publicly, and they loathe looking stupid under any circumstances. Artisans are perfectionists as onstage performers and – although they are better able to recover from mistakes than Rational folks – will want to have been able to be “at the top of their game” with the rehearsals and control necessary to win that game.

WANTING TO WIN. Of all the Types, Rationals and Artisans can be fiercely competitive. Tiger clearly possesses the values and strengths of both Rational and Artisan, doing what is necessary to win – in the smartest and most persistent ways. If you analyze the apology speech, you will see the biggest battles he determined to focus on and win involve the most important people to him, and he addressed them directly – his wife and children, the PGA, his sponsors, his foundation, and his fans who want their role model back.

RAW HONESTY.  Both Rationals and Artisans are often called “rude”, “manipulative”, and “cold” by the other Types because they are naturally unafraid to tell truths. It’s easy to forget that the real strengths behind the negative judgments are, respectively, “courageous”, “utilitarian”, and “honest”. It would be hard to find a politician or sports star who would admit that they had “felt entitled to the pleasures” as Tiger said without additional excuses. How many people have you seen nail the media for its shoddy gossipy nature without sounding like a mere whiner? Not many, for sure.

I could go on. The emotion that Tiger did show in the interview was probably outside the box for him. The entire period that began on Thanksgiving has been an enormous embarrassment to a person who aspires to do absolutely everything well – either through his mind or his body.

In anticipation of counter arguments some of you may have, let me try to answer a few of them. Is everything that Tiger does “to make things work” based on sound moral principles? Probably not always, like most of us. Is Tiger’s need for control going to hurt him once in awhile – and annoy even his best friends? Probably. Will Tiger’s “need to win” hurt a few people because they are getting in the way? You betcha. Is Tiger capable of lying? Well, he certainly has.  However, unless there is some character flaw nobody has picked up on yet, I am as certain as they sun rises every morning that Tiger will in the end win his family back, will win lots of golf tournaments and break most of the records of all golf history, and will win back his reputation as a role model for many generations to come. Tiger Woods – if nothing else – has the mind, body, and full nature of an epochal Rational-Artisan winner. Go Tiger.

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What’s a better focus — peace or harmony?

Wednesday, February 17th, 2010

I got some good comments about blog entry “You Are World Peace.” The point was that we have the opportunity to create peace in all of one’s personal interactions in each moment of each day.

But, if you think about it, peace is the result. Creating harmony is the process. Peace happens. Harmony requires work.

The word harmony is a musical term, and music is probably a best example of the work involved with making harmony. When two musicians improvise together, every note played is the result of a decision every single second to sound harmonic with each other. The result is something wonderful to listen to. If there is no effort harmonize, the result would be far less than wonderful.

I get to play music with lots of people. Sometimes it feels like a lot of work to make a piece sound good; other times, it’s just plain fun. And most of the time the audience members say they are entertained or otherwise moved.

So how different is the real world from making music? It must be a lot different because traps of negative interaction are really easy to fall into. Some people love conflict. A few people claim to love a good fight — and lots of good fights sometimes.

My own Idealist (Blue) personality style loathes conflict of most varieties. When it exists, I choose to either help resolve it or I may opt to run away from it. And even though I understand Blue people are the biggest harmony seekers of all four Colors, I don’t understand why all Colors should not be equally committed to working at creating harmony when life delivers each opportunity to be harmonic.

Harmony-seeking Gold people will achieve peaceful organization all around themselves. Greens will have the resources to peacefully fill their arsenals with knowledge and creativity. Oranges will be peacefully released from society’s vice-principals to be more energetic and free. We Blues will bissfully follow more paths and more readily affect harmonic change everywhere.

A culture of seeking harmony cannot possibly train people to crash jets into skyscrapers. A nation’s Congress would not become selfish and ineffective by wallowing in immovable partisanship. Bosses and parents would not micromanage the people who must obey them. Couples would look for strengths behind annoyances. We would all learn to choose our words actions better.

Harmony is the work, the process. Peace is the result.

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Free Valentines Gifts Might Be The Best

Thursday, February 11th, 2010

If “the best things in life are free,” let’s explore that idea for Valentine’s Day. First let’s define “free” as not paying somebody else for a product or service. Meanwhile, some sweat equity and in-house supplies need to come into play.

Equally popular with guys and gals is a romantic night — either “in” or “out”.

Staying in the house — especially on a cold winter night that most of the country is experiencing right now — takes a little imagination, but here are idea-starters: fire in fireplace, lit candles, scented candles, christmas lights, a special mix of music, a favorite game of conversation starter, the aromas of favorite home-cooked food in the kitchen, wine, dessert, clean sheets, bubble bath, massage oil, a video chosen for your shared tastes, and — well, do you need more ideas for the romantic night in the house?

And how about that evening “out”? For free, you ask? In the middle of winter? You bet your bippy! Fortunately, Valentine’s Day is on a Sunday this year, so the date “out” can be in the daytime, right? A few ideas, then — let’s start with packing a picnic lunch to eat in the car atop the hill with the best view within 20 miles of home. Play games in the back seat like you did in high school. Fog up the windows. If the weather’s not horrific, walk on some beautiful trails or carry your ice skates to the nearest frozen pond and skate till you drop. Heal your bruises with a few glasses of wine. Read each other the homemade cards you wrote for each other. Go home and give each other a massage.

Yup, the best things in life are free. The best kind of love is always freely given, at least I think so.

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