Archive for February, 2010

What’s a better focus — peace or harmony?

Wednesday, February 17th, 2010

I got some good comments about blog entry “You Are World Peace.” The point was that we have the opportunity to create peace in all of one’s personal interactions in each moment of each day.

But, if you think about it, peace is the result. Creating harmony is the process. Peace happens. Harmony requires work.

The word harmony is a musical term, and music is probably a best example of the work involved with making harmony. When two musicians improvise together, every note played is the result of a decision every single second to sound harmonic with each other. The result is something wonderful to listen to. If there is no effort harmonize, the result would be far less than wonderful.

I get to play music with lots of people. Sometimes it feels like a lot of work to make a piece sound good; other times, it’s just plain fun. And most of the time the audience members say they are entertained or otherwise moved.

So how different is the real world from making music? It must be a lot different because traps of negative interaction are really easy to fall into. Some people love conflict. A few people claim to love a good fight — and lots of good fights sometimes.

My own Idealist (Blue) personality style loathes conflict of most varieties. When it exists, I choose to either help resolve it or I may opt to run away from it. And even though I understand Blue people are the biggest harmony seekers of all four Colors, I don’t understand why all Colors should not be equally committed to working at creating harmony when life delivers each opportunity to be harmonic.

Harmony-seeking Gold people will achieve peaceful organization all around themselves. Greens will have the resources to peacefully fill their arsenals with knowledge and creativity. Oranges will be peacefully released from society’s vice-principals to be more energetic and free. We Blues will bissfully follow more paths and more readily affect harmonic change everywhere.

A culture of seeking harmony cannot possibly train people to crash jets into skyscrapers. A nation’s Congress would not become selfish and ineffective by wallowing in immovable partisanship. Bosses and parents would not micromanage the people who must obey them. Couples would look for strengths behind annoyances. We would all learn to choose our words actions better.

Harmony is the work, the process. Peace is the result.

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Free Valentines Gifts Might Be The Best

Thursday, February 11th, 2010

If “the best things in life are free,” let’s explore that idea for Valentine’s Day. First let’s define “free” as not paying somebody else for a product or service. Meanwhile, some sweat equity and in-house supplies need to come into play.

Equally popular with guys and gals is a romantic night — either “in” or “out”.

Staying in the house — especially on a cold winter night that most of the country is experiencing right now — takes a little imagination, but here are idea-starters: fire in fireplace, lit candles, scented candles, christmas lights, a special mix of music, a favorite game of conversation starter, the aromas of favorite home-cooked food in the kitchen, wine, dessert, clean sheets, bubble bath, massage oil, a video chosen for your shared tastes, and — well, do you need more ideas for the romantic night in the house?

And how about that evening “out”? For free, you ask? In the middle of winter? You bet your bippy! Fortunately, Valentine’s Day is on a Sunday this year, so the date “out” can be in the daytime, right? A few ideas, then — let’s start with packing a picnic lunch to eat in the car atop the hill with the best view within 20 miles of home. Play games in the back seat like you did in high school. Fog up the windows. If the weather’s not horrific, walk on some beautiful trails or carry your ice skates to the nearest frozen pond and skate till you drop. Heal your bruises with a few glasses of wine. Read each other the homemade cards you wrote for each other. Go home and give each other a massage.

Yup, the best things in life are free. The best kind of love is always freely given, at least I think so.

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